Designed by God

Sex can be the source of great joy in your marriage, but it can also be the source of much suffering. It is a continual learning process that takes time and adjustments. Contrary to what Hollywood projects, sex was designed by God. Not only for reproduction but to fulfill four things; increase intimacy and companionship, strengthen commitment and/or bond, increase passion and enjoy pleasure, and grow in your spirituality by fulfilling God’s command.

In a relationship that includes companionship, strong commitment, passion, and spiritual unity, the sexual relationship will flourish. If it is missing in any of these areas problems will arise. Although it may be difficult to imagine how a couple can have problems in their sexual life, it is very common, and everyone will face problems in this area. When there lacks companionship, sex lacks depth. If it lacks commitment, sex becomes risky. When passion is lacking in marriage, sex becomes routine. When the two do not share the same spirituality, sex is superficial.

Sexual intimacy also reflects the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health of each individual. Someone in poor health, tired, without energy will suffer in there physical intimacy. Poor mental health can manifest itself if someone received incorrect sexual information or was abused. Emotional stress or worries, will cause physical intimacy to suffer. Someone with low self-esteem and/or has experienced verbal, physical, sexual or emotional abuse may have there sexual relationship affected. Unresolved relationships, unconfessed past or current sins, anger and dry spirituality will also affect there physical intimacy.

Sex is a thermometer or a reflection of the state of your relationship, it is not a thermostat that controls the state of your relationship. Good sex begins not at night but during the day, with kisses and words that are given to each other. Affection is not expressed in bed, but throughout the day with hugs and holding hands, in public and private.