Strengthening Marriages, Families, and Churches in Ecuador
Strengthening Marriages, Families, and Churches in Ecuador
All husbands annoy their wives. You may think your marriage is perfect, but according to her, sometimes it can be irritating. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad husband, it means you’re just a man. For her, God corrected his mistakes when he made women. According to the Bible, God created woman to help man. She didn’t need any help. That is why it is inevitable that we bother them and need help.
The good news is you can change? Should you change? It depends on you. It depends on whether your annoying behavior is causing damage to your relationship and how much you value your relationship. Let’s take a closer look at some of those annoying things men do and see if we can make some corrections. Here are 25 things you could be doing right now that annoy your wife.
You nod your head and say “aha!”, but honestly your mind is on another planet. You’re thinking about bigger issues like how to solve world hunger needs rather than about tonight’s dinner. When you are not actively listening, you send her the message that “she is not important.” Try to pay attention by repeating what she says and looking into her eyes.
Unless you live in a hotel, you probably don’t have housekeeping to pick up your room. I understand that it’s easier to leave the socks under the bed or the wet towel on the chair, but try to understand the annoyance of picking up stained underwear.
Women may have supernatural powers to know where things are; however, it is most appropriate to make the effort to look closely first, rather than wanting someone else to make the effort for you.
I know the bathroom sink and floor can quickly fill up with your wife’s hair, but that doesn’t give you the right to leave your own facial hair in the sink after shaving. At least wipe your facial shavings with a tissue.
It is a fact that men have better spatial and directional skills than women. But the GPS system built into our brain can sometimes fail. When you are lost, asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Be a man and admit that you are lost.
Some husbands would rather admit infidelity than snoring. Has anyone ever heard themselves snore? Very difficult to prove. The key is to be empathetic because your wife hasn’t slept through the night since she got married. This annoying behavior is difficult because it is something you were born with, however, there are now some anti-snoring devices, such as mouthpieces, that do help. A rested wife is a happy wife.
When a husband catches a cold or has some other ailment, it can become a state of emergency. He can feel that he only has three days to live and become incapacitated. Sure, the extra attention is welcome, but don’t let it last more than two days. Make sure you give the same amount of attention that she shows you when she gets sick.
A husband’s brain is capable of memorizing all the players names from the 1984 Dodgers, but when it comes to really important dates, like the date of his anniversary or the birth of his beautiful girlfriend, the computer freezes. Circle important dates on your calendar and plan ahead.
It’s a mystery that has perplexed wives (and women in general) for decades. Why does a man go to the bathroom and stay much longer than necessary? What the hell is he doing in there? This whole mess started with the invention of newspapers and then smart phones. Us men know that we are just looking for a little peace and quiet, like a time out, so let your wife know that it’s just that and that you still love her.
This is an annoying habit that can destroy a marriage. Are you absolutely sure you need to be Facebook friends with your old high school girlfriends? That’s just weird and wrong. You shouldn’t even have photos of them stored anywhere if you know what’s good for you. Maybe it’s time for you to let bygones be bygones. Throw them in the trash.
No one says you shouldn’t love your children, but the most important relationship in the family is your marriage. If you do everything you can for your children but you can’t even give to your wife a kiss on the cheek, you should know that this will not go unnoticed by her and will not end well.
Let’s be honest here. The reason men don’t visit the doctor is because they are afraid of them. Too many men have died prematurely from not taking care of themselves. Don’t make your wife drag you in for a checkup. Do it because you love her, for her. Maybe if men tried to squeeze babies from their body during several hours of pain and anguish, they too would stop being afraid of doctors.
Men may be afraid of doctors, but when choosing a movie they want to see plenty of blood and violence. It can bring the inner warrior out. Therefore, watching a good action movie is defensible. However, you can give your wife a gift by watching a romantic movie with her from time to time. Watching the movie “Barbie” will not emasculate you.
One of the most fundamental rules of a successful marriage is to always act as if you are on the same team. She supports you and you support her. Correcting in public is degrading. You don’t always have to agree, but you do need to support her, or at least keep your mouth shut. The public is where you should praise your wife.
Taking out the trash or washing the dishes may seem like hard work, but rest assured, you’re not the only one doing it. In marriage we don’t keep accounts, it’s not a game. When your wife does a task that benefits both of you, such as cooking or doing laundry, she doesn’t wait to be showered with praise and praised as a selfless heroine who has finally made the house safe and clean, she does it because it needs to be done.
You may think it’s harmless, but flirting when you’re married is like walking a tightrope between two skyscrapers. It’s very easy to lose your balance and die (literally). Don’t go by there.
If you didn’t already know this, it’s amazing that you got married.
Choosing your battles well is important in marriage. You won’t win this one. There is no good reason not to be considerate enough to return the toilet seat to its original position before leaving the bathroom. Remember that she sits down for both activities. Lowering the seat will maybe add two seconds of effort to your day.
The opposite of the husband who uses too many personal care products is the man who can’t even pluck his nose hairs. Just because he’s married doesn’t mean he can now officially start neglecting himself. You no longer have a mother there to wipe the toothpaste from your mouth. The least you can do is honor your wife for all she does for herself and look in the mirror to see if you measure up to her.
Several studies have shown that it is healthy for men to have an active social life. Playing sports with your best friends is a great way to relieve stress and build strong male friendships. But if it happens night after night after night (and so on), you can’t blame her for thinking you might be trying to avoid her. Make sports time a special occasion, not a regular occurrence. You married her, not them.
Even if you both have slept in the same bed for decades, the moment you start taking this for granted, or think, “We can skip foreplay, I want to finish in time to watch the game,” you will have an unhappy wife. A great desire of women is to be pursued. Put your shining armor back on and kill the dragon for her.
There is a reason why the Bible asks a man to leave his parents and not a wife to leave her parents. A wife doesn’t need competition. If you need to consult with your mom about every decision in your life, before talking to your wife, you might be a momma’s boy. The most important woman in your life is your wife. The second and third most important is your wife.
No wife sincerely believes that her husband is Fred Astaire or Justin Bieber, all she wants is for you to make an effort, to take her by the hand and take her to the dance floor or to the kitchen. Even if you have two left feet, just the fact that you try helps a lot.
Contrary to what most men think passing gas can be controlled. What she feels or thinks is not as funny as you think. Women do not enjoy this sound and smell as much as men. Respect their tastes.
This, and rightly so, is one of the most annoying, hurtful and damaging habits that exist. It can ruin the life of your wife and children. The sad thing is that most men don’t understand this and are not willing to give it up. The opposite of love is apathy. Don’t be apathetic to your wife about the annoying habits that are destroying your relationship. Saying “it’s just how I am” is a false and selfish response. God will ask you to give account for how you treated your bride and Christ’s bride.
“The Lord is testifying against you on behalf of the wife you married when you were young, to whom you have become unfaithful even though she is your companion and wife.” Malachi 2:14
Adapted from https://bestlifeonline.com/annoying-husband-habits/